Internet Marketing Secrets through the Law of Attraction
August 5th, 2010
Law Of Attraction Exposed – Part 2. Attracting Success to you Business
If you aren’t a naturally happy, positive, or upbeat person, it’s time for some examination.
Let’s start with thoughts. You have complete control over your thoughts. They aren’t these emorphous things that just float in and out.
They are very powerful and can influence your mood, actions, behavior, and decisions. Negative thoughts will produce negative emotions, and will deter your success.
“What you think about, you will become” Jesse Duplantis from his book The Everyday Visionary.
pay close attention to your thoughts. What thoughts dominate your mind? Do you watch the news and become fearful? Do you think about failure? Do you worry about all the things you might not know how to do? Do you think negatively about yourself?
Just stop. These thoughts are not worth your focus or attention. Root them out of your mind before they take control. You do have a choice to make. You can decide that every time one of these negative thoughts dares to enter your mind, you’ll look at your Vision board or read your Vision that you’ve written down.
You can pick up an uplifting book and read a few pages. You can look around you and be thankful for what you have, for things you have accomplished in life, for your family, for your cat. We all have something to be thankful for. Gratitude is the quickest way to banish negative and depressing thoughts.
The things that we think about all day long become our reality. When you focus your attention on these negative thoughts, your feelings plummet, and you will probably find yourself becoming discouraged or depressed. And it’s hard to keep going when you feel that way. That’s why it’s so important to give your attention and focus to your success – your Vision.
A close relation to negative thoughts are negative beliefs we may have about our work, ourselves, and our ability to succeed. It’s critical to become aware of these beliefs because they work at an unconscious level to influence our behavior.
I have a friend, I’ll call her Sue, who started her own business. She would do well for a little while, but then something would just “happen” to derail her success. This happened over and over. As I was talking to her, I learned two very important things. One, was that the things that would just “happen” didn’t just happen to her – they were things she had caused to happen by decisions and choices she had made. The second thing I learned about her came from a story she told me. It was about her parents, who were very traditional. Her dad enjoyed a stable career, which enabled her mom to stay at home with the family. Her mother often told her that a woman was happiest and most fulfilled in that role.
Bingo. I understood what was keeping Sue from experiencing true, sustained success. She had adopted unconsciously, that same belief that her mom had always told her- that a woman was happiest staying home and taking care of her family. This belief was influencing Sue’s decisions. On one hand, she wanted a successful business, but deep down there was this conflicting belief that told her she would only be happy and fulfilled if she were a stay-at-home-mom.
So she made decisions that supported this belief- decisions that sabotaged her career as a business woman. We all have these unconscious beliefs that have been developed- often in childhood.
How do you unearth these beliefs?First, take a close look at your thoughts. These will give you clues to your underlying belief systems. Look at the decisions you make – the ones that don’t turn out so well- and see what thoughts were behind them.
How do you change these beliefs? After you’ve identified the thoughts behind them, work at changing the thoughts. For example, one of Sue’s thoughts turned out to be “I can’t be a good business woman. ” Once she realized it, she changed it to “I am perfectly capable of being a good business woman- I have been in the past, I am now, and I will be in the future. ” Another one she had was “I can only be happy if I have a family” which she changed to “I am happy and fulfilled in my relationships, in my activities, and my business. ” These are not positive affirmations- they are positive truthful statements that she was using to replace those old negative thoughts that she had built her belief system around.
Practice by beginning to focus on the positive-keep these thoughts in your mind. What if you’re just hammered by all of those old negative thoughts? Stop. If you will to do it, you can. Think about all you are thankful for. Focus on gratitude, and you will see a difference!
Check back for part 3!
